Need help with childcare options

[p***@hotmail.com]

Hi,

My wife and I have an adopted three year old daughter who is currently
in a daycare center. Although it's a bit crowded, we're really happy
with the socialization and education she's been getting. We were
planning on adopting again but not right away since we don't feel we're
financially ready. Well it turns out that a friend of a friend has a
pregnant 17 year old daughter that wants us to adopt her baby. Anybody
who's been through the adoption process knows how difficult it can be,
so it would be insane to pass up such an opportunity. After looking at
our finances there are some options we can explore to ease up some
extra cash (refi our house, student loan hardships, etc.) for daycare
for a 2nd child, but it will be very difficult. We've been looking into
a number of care options (au pairs, live-in or live-out nannies,
in-home daycares, etc.) but want to be sure we're exhausting every
possibility before deciding what to do. Hopefully somebody reading this
has been in a similar situation and may have some advice to share, or
can at least point me in the right direction. (This is my first time on
this group so I'm not even sure if this is appropriate here).

Bottom line, I guess what I'm asking is what is the best
bang-for-the-buck option for childcare of an infant and a three
year-old. Any help will be greatly appreciated.

Thanks so much,
Nate

[Kirk Bogle]

How about having the expectant mother as a live-in? There are
alternative methods of finishing high school, so the added expenses of
adding her and her baby to your household can be offset by what you are
currently paying for day care. In addition, perhaps the teen's parents would
contribute toward her expenses as well.
Not knowing much about adoptions, I've heard of the nightmares
concerning birth mothers changing their minds and demanding custody. It
seems like you would be especially at risk, due to your relationship with
the family. Rather than take that risk, by adopting the baby or fostering
it, and becoming surrogate parents for the teen mother, you can share the
joy and love of raising her baby and give the mom the support she needs to
learn to be a good mother.
If she chooses to pursue a future that is independent of the baby she
will at least be less guilt ridden, knowing her baby is in good hands and
the baby will have had the benefit of bonding with her birth mother as well
as you two, being able to nurse, etc. You will have been blessed with the
privilege of raising two more children, even if the teen's stay with you is
short-lived. Hopefully the means to afford child care for your two adopted
children will be provided for you by the time the young mom goes on to
college.
--
Kirk Bogle
Administrator
Sunny Day Preschool & Daycare Center
1320 N. Bristol Street
Sun Prairie, WI 53590

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Post by p***@hotmail.com
Hi,
My wife and I have an adopted three year old daughter who is currently
in a daycare center. Although it's a bit crowded, we're really happy
with the socialization and education she's been getting. We were
planning on adopting again but not right away since we don't feel we're
financially ready. Well it turns out that a friend of a friend has a
pregnant 17 year old daughter that wants us to adopt her baby. Anybody
who's been through the adoption process knows how difficult it can be,
so it would be insane to pass up such an opportunity. After looking at
our finances there are some options we can explore to ease up some
extra cash (refi our house, student loan hardships, etc.) for daycare
for a 2nd child, but it will be very difficult. We've been looking into
a number of care options (au pairs, live-in or live-out nannies,
in-home daycares, etc.) but want to be sure we're exhausting every
possibility before deciding what to do. Hopefully somebody reading this
has been in a similar situation and may have some advice to share, or
can at least point me in the right direction. (This is my first time on
this group so I'm not even sure if this is appropriate here).
Bottom line, I guess what I'm asking is what is the best
bang-for-the-buck option for childcare of an infant and a three
year-old. Any help will be greatly appreciated.
Thanks so much,
Nate

[d***@gmail.com]

Like Kirk's response.

Maybe the young mother needs your help. Maybe she's never had anyone
tell her she can get a good education and keep her child. Maybe she
needs your help more than the little one inside her. This will help
the little one as well, ultimately.

Very creative Kirk.

May the Lord bless you and give you wisdom.

~d

Post by p***@hotmail.com
Hi,
My wife and I have an adopted three year old daughter who is currently
in a daycare center. Although it's a bit crowded, we're really happy
with the socialization and education she's been getting. We were
planning on adopting again but not right away since we don't feel we're
financially ready. Well it turns out that a friend of a friend has a
pregnant 17 year old daughter that wants us to adopt her baby. Anybody
who's been through the adoption process knows how difficult it can be,
so it would be insane to pass up such an opportunity. After looking at
our finances there are some options we can explore to ease up some
extra cash (refi our house, student loan hardships, etc.) for daycare
for a 2nd child, but it will be very difficult. We've been looking into
a number of care options (au pairs, live-in or live-out nannies,
in-home daycares, etc.) but want to be sure we're exhausting every
possibility before deciding what to do. Hopefully somebody reading this
has been in a similar situation and may have some advice to share, or
can at least point me in the right direction. (This is my first time on
this group so I'm not even sure if this is appropriate here).
Bottom line, I guess what I'm asking is what is the best
bang-for-the-buck option for childcare of an infant and a three
year-old. Any help will be greatly appreciated.
Thanks so much,
Nate